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  1. Minish

    Gender

    No, it's okay. I think it's perfectly fair to point out that people should stay mindful of the different gravity of different situations, because all too easily you can be really, really insensitive. I mean, complaining about your situation to someone who has it a fair bit worse is... generally...
  2. Minish

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    ... again, that's exactly my point!! You were just saying how Japan sucks! Unless you're talking about how it's not fair to blame Game Freak or Nintendo or whatever when we should be blaming society? But in the end, that's all anyone is blaming!
  3. Minish

    Gender

    Sort of my point! (Though judging the world by the west's standards: maybe not the best idea!)
  4. Minish

    Gender

    Eh. Granted, usually in male/female splits the male species is the awesome fighter version (Nidoking, Braviary, etc.) with the female having defensive stats, but. At least things generally suck for females in the actual animal world. Though it's true that female-only Pokemon tend to be frilly...
  5. Minish

    Gender

    I hate being the opposite! :c I always use girl characters when I can help it and it's really not that helpful when I explain that I don't actually like putting down F in other situations. I mean, mostly it's a combined effect of having a deep aversion to and discomfort with 'he' pronouns...
  6. Minish

    Gender

    Er, but, I don't actually care that much about what other people think of me in the first place? 99% of everyone I see in my daily life is preeeetty much going to gender me female, and there is nothing I can do about that unless I try to be more masculine or something. Most people would not...
  7. Minish

    Gender

    The story's always brought up about teaching techniques incorporating styles of learning that seemed to better help girls/FAAB (generally, things being less exam-focused and also, I think, more group-focused? coincidentally I'm better at the opposites). And then girls began to completely...
  8. Minish

    Gender

    Yeeeep! Really, the idea that seeing this kind of thing constantly all day forever builds up into shitty feelings is new to you?? like, I'd understand if you were saying this about something non-important! but uh pretty much a whole lot of trans* people go through high school! (it's still going...
  9. Minish

    Gender

    That's all true, and it's something I guess I forgot! :c A thing I tend to do is avoid using pronouns at all until I can make an educated guess? It sounds like it would be really awkward, and it is sometimes, but clues often pop up. Surely asking discreetly is still sounding like you don't think...
  10. Minish

    Gender

    What does this... mean?? I mean, then, how do you 'present' as not-male or not-female? I thought at first that she was using 'present' to be what they identified as, but this seems a lot more like making guesses based on secondary sex characteristics or binary gender expression. That shouldn't...
  11. Minish

    Gender

    Yay! I would always recommend reading some of the blogs out there written from a trans* perspective, rather than trying to wrap your head around it alone. I think I actually went through a similar thing! Before I came to terms with probably not being cis, I mostly had this opinion that trans*...
  12. Minish

    Gender

    I'd pretty much always be up for it?? I was explaining why sometimes people aren't! Really, I wish people I knew asked more! Poly: Really, if you're actually interested, writing about gender-neutral pronouns or trans*ness or gender identity or whatever! could still be a really cool thing to do...
  13. Minish

    Gender

    But the thing is, this isn't that good for trans* people. In the end, if you don't seriously and personally identify as trans*, yours is not a trans* voice. Maybe some trans* people would find your idea interesting! I'm far from the Trans Representative here. But trans* experiences have been...
  14. Minish

    Gender

    Most trans* people... are activists? Even not just going by my wide definition, which includes "getting through shitty day by shitty day while trying not to compromise yourself". Activism is more than educating any individual who asks about your identity and/or body. I appreciate your response...
  15. Minish

    Gender

    Well! I mostly have only ever seen alternative pronouns online. Now that there are some people irl who use mine, generally I introduce my pronouns as sounding like they/their/them but with the 'th' cut off! And zee, zer, zim. I gueeeess they can sound similar to other pronouns? Like mine sound...
  16. Minish

    Gender

    When you're using 'trans*', you're referring to everyone/anyone who identifies as trans*; when you decide to use a particular gender-neutral pronoun you're doing the deciding. Then it's not about how we identify but about what you are using to refer to us. For me trans* is what I am and my...
  17. Minish

    Gender

    I'm fairly sure it's what we've all been saying all along, just with a fancier layout...
  18. Minish

    Gender

    I'm sorry you felt that way! Really, I am completely surrounded in life by friends and family who don't understand my gender identity whatsoever, some who don't even try to respect it, so while maybe it doesn't get across, I do try to be understanding in this thread. :C Despite posts asking why...
  19. Minish

    Gender

    It's kind of odd that you feel that way, since it's only been cisgender people who have ever refused to use or recognise my pronouns! I'd like different ones because she/hers and he/his don't fit me rather than 'just 'cause'!
  20. Minish

    Gender

    But they don't! There are lots of parents who even if they could spend time with their children wouldn't because they aren't that great parents (and maybe it's not even their fault that they aren't!) So what do we do about that?? Just give up those children as a lost cause? And parenting is a...
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